The Potty Train…

 The dreaded word right?

After reading many baby books I always wanted to be on the ball with potty training, my granny always said ”back in the day your mum was potty trained at a year old!!” How could this be? Could she even walk? Statistics say 97% of children were potty trained by age 18months in 1957! Wow!!! I wonder how much of that statistic is true?

IVY

We took the plunge when Ivy was about 17months old. I followed Gina Fords book Potty training in 1 week. Sounds ideal right!? Thinking if we can crack this we can crack anything. The book is a short step by step daily guide with tips and signs to look out for to keep you on the right track. Previously I have used Gina Fords books for issues such as routine and weaning, and felt they really worked.
So we opened the book (I say we, but not entirely sure how much Sean was involved) page by page day by day she stuck to the book and she was ‘potty trained’ within 10 days…so a little longer than it says on the cover but I was impressed.  Of course we had the odd accident, and she wasn’t dry at night but it was a great success!

You think 1 week isn’t long…however it was the longest week ever! I thought she would never crack it. Its so frustrating at the time your life is consumed indoors, concentrating solely on potty training. As it states in the book they need to recognise to ask for the potty themselves to move onto the next stage and not just be reminded. I remember going to the top of the stairs with Ivy for her bath on day 8 thinking about packing the whole thing in…when she finally said ‘pee pee’ and ran to the potty and did the needful. I couldn’t believe it!  I was jumping about on the landing clapping my hands and dancing!! It had finally clicked and we were on our way!  A short while after we were on holiday with the girls abroad, and to my surprise Ivy was dry from the first night there right through the week. So it was a pretty easy journey with Ivy as she progressed in age she hardly has had an accident. To the point now at 5 years old I have to remind her to go to the toilet. As she would quite happily go the whole day and not go!

GRACIE

When Gracie became about 18months I decided to pull out the good old Potty training in 1 week book again. My girls even though they look similar they couldn’t be more opposite in personality. Unfortunately it didn’t click after a few days in or few weeks. We decided to abandon all efforts and give her a little time as she wasn’t ready. After several attempts at trying however she still wasn’t able to hold her bladder long enough. When we did get Gracie dry around age 2 it was such a relief. However she wasn’t dry at night and wasn’t accident free. There was lots of days she wet herself on many occasions and I felt we were right back to where we started. Some days she would deliberately have an accident to gain attention. I just imagined the whole process would be easy like it was with Ivy but it wasn’t. It wasn’t until she was about 3 she would go long periods without accidents. I began to worry and google for tips as now she was 3 and a half and was still wet through the night. I had tried several things however none seemed to work.
I called the health visitor for advice as she was turning 4 soon and I was beginning to get really worried as not one night had passed where she had been dry. I couldn’t help compare the girls how could they be so different? The health visitor came to see Gracie for her 4 year review and was very much pleased with her progress. So I thought It was a good opportunity to bring this topic up. I couldn’t believe when she began to discuss other situations and examples of other children’s issues at the same age as Gracie. it gave me a sense of not being the only one like this. She asked questions like if anyone in my family had been older in age before being potty trained? As it sometimes can run in the family. She advised me that unless the particular hormone in her brain is mature and released she will never be dry as she wont be ready. No mater what I try it wont make any difference until this hormone is produced she wont be dry at night.
Gracie turned 4 in February and we had the choice whether she went to school next year or waited until she was 5 1/2. We decided to put her forward for school as she is so go ahead we didn’t want to hold her back in another year of playschool if she is ready for school. Naturally I have been trying to prep her for going to school by dressing herself, toileting and zipping up her jacket independently. So with the bed wetting I was nervous of the fact that she continued to do this.
On her 4th birthday evening her granny was preparing for bed, I overheard her say she didn’t want a pull up on that night. I thought oh dear, but I let her go to bed without one since the sheets need changed anyway in the morning. Much to my joy in the morning she was dry!! She had never done this before it was a great achievement. I thought it must have been a fluke…but no she has been pretty ‘dry’ since.
I used to always lift her before I went to bed and sometimes she will shout in the middle of the night to go to the toilet. She has had the odd dribble since then so I tend to put a training mat under her in bed. However sometimes when we are having a bad week, when she isn’t getting enough attention/or her own way, like last week…for example I was working extra shifts she wet the bed for a whole week!! However usually the majority of the time she is dry.

So that was my experience with girls very different indeed. What about boys??

The average age now for potty training is 3 1/2 with teachers in schools seeing an increase in children coming to school not potty trained. 10% of 7 year old are still wetting the bed. These are facts I was glad to hear when I was struggling with Gracie’s bed wetting. Its nothing to be ashamed of and not spoken about enough. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help and advice with toilet training, and don’t feel like you’ve failed if they don’t succeed. If they haven’t realised the matured hormone they will never be ready, no mater what techniques you try at home.

”Potty training boys is so much harder than girls, they need to be at least 2 and a half!”

MALACHY

So Malachy was 21 months and he’s quite mature for his age I would say- he copy’s the girls a lot and had started showing signs like talking about going to the toilet and recognising when he’s wet! So I took a deep breath and pulled out the good old Gina Ford book for the 3rd time. To be honest I wasn’t planning on attempting it until nearer summer but I thought I would do a little test…much to my delight he knew exactly what he was doing. Sean was looking at me saying I thought we wasn’t doing this just now? But once I started and he got on so well I couldn’t stop! Didn’t want to send him confusing signals by abandoning ship.
Out of  10 days I would say we had 5 accidents/wet pants with me. Of course when I was working and grandparents had him, unfortunately not so switched on to he whole potty training thing and didn’t toilet him so often there was more accidents. He was absolutely no problem and I couldn’t quite believe how easy he was to train- even easier than Ivy.
He’s now dry for his afternoon nap, and sometimes dry at night so we’re on the right track! I must admit I was a little emotional when I began to train Malachy as he was my last and youngest in nappy’s.

What worked for me?

GINA FORD POTTY TRAINING IN 1 WEEK.
They need to be ready and show the signs.
Rewards for peeing in potty (penny sweet)
Don’t go back to nappy’s after you start- don’t confuse them!
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Team work

It doesn’t mater what age they are toilet trained as every child is ready at their own pace. It can be something you don’t want to discuss with other mums as you might be ashamed or embarrassed as they begin to grow older and they have not achieved it. Speak out and seek advice. By sharing my three different experiences shows how good or how bad it can go.

Guest Writer- The Organised Mum Method

Do you want to know how all those organised mums out there manage to keep on top of it all?

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I love Gemma- she is the queen bee of the organised cleaning method! Everyday she has a plan for particular room- 30 minutes a day is all it takes! Does it work I hear you say?? Yes it does!

I use it and it makes you feel like your on top of the game!

She’s created a weekly plan to tackle the house work. Or If your house is in need for a major over hall she’s got a plan for that too!!

Check out here page in the link at the bottom! click here to download her free pintables for a week by week cleaning plan! I love it! It stays in my kitchen and keeps me right for each day!

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Prep is key!


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Top Tips For Keeping Everything Together by The Organised Mum (Gemma Bray)

There is no doubt about it, keeping everything together at home when you have kids can be challenging! I was never an organised person … until I had kids. Whilst they rocked my world is so many ways they also turned it upside down. I could no longer fly by the seat of my pants and I needed to get some structure into my life.

Over the years I have come up with some shortcuts to calm the chaos!

Always try to get up and dressed early. This is really important .. especially if you are on maternity leave and still have little ones with you at home. I find that if I am dressed and ready for the day early doors, it changes my whole mindset and makes me feel ‘together’.
Be realistic about what you want to achieve with your time. If you set yourself unrealistic targets then when you will inevitably struggle to meet them. This is very demotivating! Much better to approach fewer tasks in one day, (remembering that things always take much longer with kids) get them all done and go to bed feeling accomplished!
Be your future friend! If you follow any of my social media accounts you will know that this is a motto that I live by. The premise behind it is very simple. Always try and make your future life easier. So if you have a sink full of dishes at bedtime that you KNOW will be much harder to clean in the morning  then do them now! This will stop that awful sinking feeling when you walk into the kitchen tomorrow morning and see last night’s crusty lasagne dish! This motto doesn’t just apply to cleaning you can use it in all aspects of life and it really works!
Finally, recognise the importance of lazy days! You are not a machine and you can’t be on the go all the time. If you wake up one day and really can’t bring yourself for get dressed (see point 1) and think that you need a day on the sofa catching up on The Real Housewives of Wherever then do it! Don’t feel guilty, embrace the downtime but make sure you get back on track the next day. Relaxing is never a waste of time!

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Thank you so much Gemma for taking the time to be a guest blogger on my page!

Go on check out her page she has great recipes and videos too!

The organised mum site click here

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The weekend before I turned 30.

Many people dread turning the big 30 or 40? Why because they don’t want to feel old?
I suppose people want to feel like they have accomplished something by the time they reach a certain age? Like a weight loss goal? Married? Kids? That dream job?


I was doing a bank shift recently and was given a student to shadow. As we were driving along in the car we were chatting about life and what she was doing at the weekend. As she talked I thought we sound like we’re the same age, although she wasn’t married or had kids.
When I asked her how old she was she said 18…my jaw literally dropped… I thought we were the same age….but in actual fact I was 11 years older!!! How could this be?? Even driving along the road that day chatting about life with 3 kids car seats in the back I felt not a day older than 18!
It was a reality check for me that day.. I thought she must look at me and think I’m old!! But I wasn’t I felt young! Age is just a number!! It doesn’t mater if your not married by 30 of 40 or 50! Marriage isn’t for everyone and we’re not born out the same box, everyone has different goals and views of life.
These days people aren’t getting married at 19 and Boom boom boom 3 kids. People are enjoying life a bit first before they have kids and settle down, travelling or meeting new people. Turning a milestone birthday is just another number.. has no meaning…you are just as old as you feel…and I don’t feel a day older than 18…

The last Saturday in my 20s was just another ordinary Saturday for us… usually we have a chilled out morning as it’s the one day of the week we’re not rushing to get out of the house for school or church. So on a Saturday we chill… my dad came round to finish more of the hall way floor and Sean decided to muck in too. There was a craft fate on the in village hall which I had planned to take the girls to… however my mum took Ivy away to Fraserburgh with her and my brother took Gracie away to Banff with him.


So I found myself ‘almost bored’ just me and Malachy. What were we going to do? As we were chilling I began to think.. this is my last weekend in my 20s I should have arranged a party or a get together with my friends, but life has been so busy with kids and other stuff, I guess I forgot!

When he girls got back we sat down to some lunch, Sean was always hinting ‘what we going to do today?’ To be honest I was quite happy just go to the craft fayre and come home again. However I felt Sean wanted to get out the house and kept commenting on that we needed a food shop from Lidl’s!
As the hours passed I was still sitting there in my polo neck, jeans & slippers…looking back now Sean must of been in a sweat trying to get me out the house half decent dressed.
So he mentioned something that would always make we jump… what about we go for a food shop and go out for supper somewhere nice… right he said it… let’s go!
So I decided It was my birthday weekend even though we hadn’t anything planned, I would dress up a bit and we would have our dinner out with the kids in the evening which I looked forward to as we never go out these days. The stress of eating out with kids just isn’t worth it.
So while Sean packed everyone into the car (at this point Sean was getting a little stressed at the time it was taking everyone to find their shoes and get out the door) I was thinking to myself, What’s the rush? It was 2 pm we had all afternoon to go to Lidl’s and go out for dinner.
Any ways we got into the car and off we went in the direction of Lidl’s… in the back the girls was popping out hints like when will we be at the fayre? I began to wonder what was going on.

Sean took a wrong turn. He stopped the car and pulled out a blind fold… here put this on! From then I knew my suspicions were right there was something going on. I said where we going but he would let out no clues.


He started to drive, to begin with I knew the road so I kind of knew where we were going. Later that day I got a text from someone who saw Sean driving me through the countryside blind folded wondering if we was doing a fifty shades stunt. I couldn’t help but laugh! If only!
So the car stopped, by this point I didn’t know where we were. He opened the door and lead me through the car park. I took my blind fold off to find all my family waving at me and laughing shouting surprise!!

Sean sneakily had arranged an afternoon tea for my 30th Birthday.
What a great surprise to receive. I was in shock as I sat down at the head of the table Sean began to thank everyone for coming, and thank everyone for their help with the kids ,as he did a speech for a moment I thought he was going to do a pregnancy announcement, I wasn’t the only one who thought this either.
Along with my mum they arranged this together with the help of some friends. It was lovely, food and cakes and party bags for the kids to keep them entertained in our own private room to ourselves.


I never knew my man could pull out all the stops and arrange something like that without me knowing. I did have my concerns when it must have been in the planning stages when he was continually on his phone, I would ask him what you doing and he would say never you mind!

Felt totally blessed to have all my family come together to celebrate my birthday. Made turning 30 that bit easier…

little did I know that wasn’t the only surprise that week he had up his sleeve!!

…to be continued…

The Mummy Club

What is Club Mummy I hear you say…I stumbled across her page on Instagram and was intrigued and went on to read her website..

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I love this saying she quotes ‘It takes a village to raise a child’ I for one am an example of this as I have my mum, and both granny’s  and aunties living around me. Who all have input in my children’s life and help me raise them on a day to day basis. However not everyone is blessed to stay so close to family or friends even. The world can be a lonely place and with no one to talk to it can become even lonelier. No one ever talks about their failings or down times, but when they do we realise were all the same, were not robots, we all struggle! Its good to laugh at our failures rather than dwell in them.
Christie a mum of two girls is founder of the mummy club after having her girls struggled with post natal depression and anxiety. After having kids were expected to know what to do right? We don’t we just struggle on and wing at parenting. Post natal depression is common for new mums or becoming a mum for the second or third time. I personally struggled with postnatal depression after Gracie and it is a lonely place, you may be surrounded by lots of friends and family however inside your head its a very lonely. The voice inside telling you your not a good mum, and constant comparing yourself to others. Its not until you speak out to others your discover your not alone feeling like this.


The Mummy Club was born… as Christie wanted to put a smile on other mums faces. By filling this box of goodies to make you smile after you’ve had a bad day. The boxes can be on subscription for £18 or a one off gift for yourself of fellow mum.  This box diffidently put a smile on my face when I opened it.
The mummy club website has a bloggers showcase which is packed full of different bloggers take on life, like mum problems to mental health issues. Great place to visit when you are feeling low. From every box £1 is donated to PANDAS foundation. Which is a great organisation which helps people struggling with pre and post natal depression.

When this pink box arrived on my doorstep I was so excited to open it, when I did the smell bounced out at me. What was this amazing smell that reminded me of being on a spa day…It was this little candle inside a tin by Help me organics a smell of Frankincense , Geranium, bourbon and lavender…smells amazing! They included a 10% discount voucher. These candles are organic, vegan and cruelty free. I will defiantly be purchasing one of these! If you want to go on a pretend spa day buy one of these ‘help me have a mindful of calm’ candle.


The next thing that caught my eye was the book. I recognised the faces on the cover strait away. I follow the Scummy Mummies on Instagram. They talk pure honesty on mother hood. They always make me laugh and laughing at our faults and failures makes us realise we’ve all done it at some point…been a scummy mummy. The first few pages of this book made me laugh out loud, defiantly worth a read.

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The bath bomb is amazing again smelling of Lavender…this girl really knows how to treat a woman. This box is like a spa in a box! The only thing missing is a little lady to do the massage! If anyone knows me they know I love a bath, but getting the time or the energy these days is a struggle. Usually by the time I get the kids to bed I’m so tired I fall into my own bed and don’t have time to even run the bath. So when I saw this bath bomb it instantly put a smile on my face.Sabao bath bomb is very luxurious and contain exotic essential oils from around the world- and chosen to promote wellness and well being is from their aromatherapy collection.

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The last item in the box was this beautifully wrapped in brown paper and tied with a bow. Its food I thought, when I pealed back the paper my mouth watering and my daughter Gracie and husband slyly watching me…this  adorable chocolate covered love heart flap jack from Just flap jack. I must admit flap jacks aren’t the first thing I would pick up from the sweet/biscuit isle I would far rather go for a cream egg or a galaxy…however when I tasted this flap jack it was truly delicious! It was huge bigger than a normal biscuit so it was a win win situation! I had to stop myself eating it all so gave half to Gracie and she demolished it. I read the ingredients label, all natural products no ‘EEs’ which is a tick in my box!! I even checked under the tissue paper in the box to see if there was another!


This box really is a treat and well worth the money! This box has reminded to always take time out and have some self care. Us mums need down time when the kids go to bed and this box is the perfect treat!! As we go through our busy life’s its important I feel to self medicate with love and take care of our minds and body’s. Positive thoughts and actions have a positive impact on our behaviours. Lets talk more about or failings and laugh at them, as when you do you realise others will open up to and you are not alone.

Negatives?
One thing that seemed to be missing was the massage lady with the free gown and slippers…

 

Thanks so much Christie for sending me this box to review. Its been a real treat! Keep up the good work!!

Go check out her page for yourself and treat yourself or another woman who deserves it.

The Mummy Club Website

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Mila & Pheebs -review


The background

Alexis like myself has a love for little ‘knick knacks’ and all things stationary! Like my girls, she was always making things from left over materials and very crafty minded as a child. Alexis really is the stationary queen…and her choice for each box shows this off beautifully! Every item in the box is carelfully selected, and it doesn’t disappoint. Her daughters are her judge and guide and if it doesn’t excite them it doesn’t go in!

This is a great little family business with help inputted from every member- mummy Alexis scores the internet for such beautiful little stationary and cute items to put in each box. Along with her husband Pete who is the designer behind the scenes, he makes up the designs for all the activities inside the box. The georgous twins Milena and Phoebe help mummy by sticking all the stickers on the box! Such great team work!! Their beautiful names is obviously inspiration for the name of this special business.

You can subscribe to the boxes on a monthly basis or simply buy a one off box, various themes are available on the website! Great ideas for birthdays- as this is where Alexis business first began.

First impressions:

When I first received this box this slim line box came through my letter box… to be honest my first Impression was there can’t be much in there due to the width of the box-however all was soon reveled when I opened it up. This slim lined box is decorated with bright stickers very eye catching.

Age related?

These boxes are aimed at ages 4+ and I would totally agree. My girls are ages 4 and 5 and they loved it, Gracie especially found It very exciting going through the box, finding all the surprises. The crafts and activities are great and based well according to that age group.

What’s inside-

This months edition is all about Garden pals… this was the list of items inside the box.

The girls thoughts?

Gracie jumped in as she loves all things stickers. We had great fun making the bumble bee badge, she found it easily enough to follow the instructions and do it by herself.

Ivy is a little more delicate in her crafting than Gracie and she loved doing the lady bird sewing kit. It was two great things to include in the box as my girls are very different and they loved these tasks.

Another great item was the garden pals dotty art. I actually took these with me to church on Sunday as it was something different for them to do. Again this was a hit with the girls as they sat for ages choosing different stickers for their picture. I must add, the quantity of stickers is very well thought out too!

As I said earlier my girls love all things craft- so when it came to making Mother’s Day cards we grabbed our box again and inside there was two cards with envelops also a bag of various foam stickers. The girls sat for ages designing their cards and they loved the fact there was envelopes to post them with too!

I especially loved the news letter it was bright and colourful with lots of facts about animals, jokes and ideas! It’s so eye catching and a great feature of the box!

We haven’t used the activity sheets yet but they are great sizes and printed on strong card to take away with you on a day out. Great to pull out in a restaurant while waiting for your meal to keep the kids entertained. The pencil and eraser didn’t last long in the box before it disappeared into Ivy’s pencil case.

Overall.

I believe that there has been lots of thought and time gone into the contents of this box. Every item is related to its chosen theme. I love how these boxes have various crafts inside for example the sewing kit to the activity sheets.

The items inside are good quality and very eye catching to the buyer! I love how it’s all wrapped in tissue paper and sealed with a sticker, so neatly packed inside and so exciting for the child opening it. Although my first impression I thought it looked small, after opening the box I was proved wrong and this little box is full of unique little surprises. Every item linked to another and guaranteed to keep your child busy for hours, independently or with help. I would have to agree with the price too as myself as a mother has scored the internet and stores for stationary and they can be very expensive to purchase. So this product is very much worth the money of (£10) per month.

I would and have recommended these boxes to my friends. If I was planning a long flight I would defiantly consider buying these to take on the plane. So compact yet full of goodies.


To find out more about the products check out their website and Instagram page.

To subscribe or browse their great products click here. 


Disclaimer: I was kindly sent a free sample of the product in return for my honest review in my blog. All opinions expressed are my own and unbiased, not influenced by the company and any links used in this review are not affiliate.

A Mothers love

Becoming a mother myself…

Mother’s day is the one day we set aside to appreciate our mums, granny’s, sisters, aunties, mother in law, and others who play a motherly role in our life. A mother’s love begins in the womb, when you first see the red line on the pregnancy test, the fluttering in your tummy of nervousness and excitement. The feeling of skin to skin and the connection is unreal when you first hold that baby on your chest. It’s so precious, you made this tiny human and its all yours.
I remember looking into the Moses basket when Ivy was just a few days old and being overcome by emotion as I couldn’t believe I could love this tiny baby so much and she was all mine. The same happened with Gracie and Malachy too. I just wanted to hold them forever they were so precious and I remember being so in love with them my heart could burst. To become a mother is truly a miracle I believe. For a man and a woman to conceive a child and grow this baby inside of you for 9 months is truly beautiful. It’s so precious and mind baffling at how nature works in our body’s.

Nature’s wrong turn

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There is great excitement when the pregnancy test is positive and we begin to plan out the future for the baby…However silently nature can take a wrong turn and the baby can be taken from you without warning or reason. That is not how you planned the future, what did we do wrong we often question ourselves. Miscarriage is more common than we know with 1 in 4 pregnancy’s ending up in miscarriage. Its a silent heart ache that often women don’t share with the world as its usually within the first trimester. Why God we question ourselves?

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Isaiah 41:10
“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will uphold you with my righteous hand”
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Our journey is planned out…

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Boy meets girl, Boy marries girl, couple have a baby…this is the ideal life for some isn’t it? For lots of couples this isn’t the reality. I am often humbled thinking about couples who have fertility problems or for whatever reason can’t conceive. It would appear to be so isolating and difficult to understand if you haven’t been through it yourself. The constant thought of mourning that child you can’t have. It must be mentally exhausting going through that and being around children on a day to day basis. We don’t know the plan God has for our life, and sometimes God puts us through trials so we can be a testimony to others. But we’re seeing so much medical intervention these days it almost becomes that anything is possible. I believe God is in control of every situation. It’s sometimes not how we had planned it and we become angry and bitter, but in time it will be revealed it’s not our plan its Gods plan.
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Romans 8:28
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
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The loss of a mother

Mother’s day for some is an agonising day. It might be the first mother’s day without their mum or the 10th anniversary , but every year it hurts just the same. This special day is a frank reminder that you mother is no longer here to celebrate it with you. You wish you had one last phone call or one last hug. That hole in your heart can never be filled. For some it becomes a day of celebrating their lives. Your mum was your number one fan, right there in the front row of your life. A mother can never be replaced but others around us become a mother supplement. We must bring joy to them also on this day.

Myself as a mother

I love mother’s day, I love receiving the home made cards from the girls that they made at playschool. However I almost feel a sense of guilt as I read them. I think back to the days when I was tired and I shouted at them as they were misbehaving in the bath or wouldn’t put their clothes on as we were in a hurry. I just hope they don’t remember those times.
The days can be long but the years are short. Gracie is approaching school age after the summer I look back and think where did those years go? I have such a bad memory all the kids milestones of walking and talking verge into one. Since becoming a mum and I go through trials with the kids I often think back to my own mum and how she would have done things.

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My Mum

My mum wasn’t the cool mum at the school gates with the funky clothes or the stylish hair. (Sorry Mum) She was the mum I could tell anything to, a comforting loving godly mother. She was and is a strong centre link in our family and she has done a great job raising my brothers and I. When I heard her say those words ‘I know best as I’ve been here before you’  I used to cringe, when she wouldn’t let me go out with that crowd or go to certain places. Back then I didn’t know why she did say no to all those things, now I see through mothers eyes, and all that she did was love. She knew what was best for me, even though I couldn’t see it. I often feel bad for my parents for the teenager that I was back then. It’s not an easy job being a mum as I often am the one saying no, and the kids look at me angrily or with disappointment. I would do anything for my children. I dread my two girls hitting their teenage years! Help!! It isn’t until I became a mum that I realised how difficult it’s going to be for Sean and I.
Happy Mothers day to all my fellow mums and followers. Let’s celebrate and appreciate the women in our life’s. This Day and every day…

Thanks Mum, I love you!
Love April
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Love Endures

What the bible says about love…

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 1 Corinthians ch13 verse 4-8.img_8166

What love means to me?
I love this verse its a perfect example of what love means to me. Love is all those things and more. It stems from a close friendship that grows to affection, feelings and state of mind between yourself and another. Love is forgiving, Love is about tolerance, Love is about compromise and putting others before yourself.
Before we got married 7 years ago my dads only advice was to never let the sun go down on your wrath. A well known bible verse. Yet so true, as relationships can be damaged if arguments and strain goes on and on. The best piece of advice I could ask for.pexels-photo-256737.jpeg

What is the definition of love?
The definition of love is different for everyone. No one can define it and no one has the right answer. To fall in love when a strong connection in your relationship kindles, the feeling of giddiness and excitement. That feeling when you cant wait to see each other again. Holding hands, and the feeling that you cant be apart. There’s a big spark between you and the relationship is very rosy and fresh and new. As relationships mature the spark becomes a glowing ember in your heart. Maybe your not feeling the same excitement when you see each other but you just know the love is still there. You don’t need to question it. You don’t need to express it with PDA public display of affection anymore or bunches of flowers. Love simply becomes a cup of tea made for you in the morning or plugging your phone into charge when you simply forget. Or prepping the kids before you head out the door to work to make sure they behave while your away. Love has your back, love forgets old wounds, Love doesn’t look at your bank balance or your race. Love doesn’t care about your cellulite or your stretch marks. Love is blind and love is from the heart. Love endures.


What love means to others…

Claire, also known as @Cailynsmummy

Love to me is being present, caring and wanting to be there for the people you care about. Love is such a strong word and one I’ve not said to many but love with Chris gives me excitement, happiness and security. Love to us is passion and support for each other, always. See more from Claires here

Hetti, also known as @blossomandbe mother of 2 take on her love…

Defining love is complicated as we each experience love in our own way. For me love doesn’t exist as one thing. The love I have for my husband is a passionate commitment that is always developing and being nurtured.
I think a key factor in this growing love is our compatibility, we share the same values, likes and dislikes and interests, and these common grounds were what sparked our love, and what allow this love to grow. I don’t find it difficult to stay in love with him, it’s something I never question. He makes me laugh, is there for me when I cry and I will care and protect him forever through thick and thin.
The love for my children is a different type of love, it is a profound emotion that is like nothing else in this world. When I first saw them i got an instant overwhelming urge to love them and I find it almost indescribable. From that moment these tiny babies were my main priority and I immediately had a fierce desire to protect them. When my children were born I also realised how much my mother loves me. I love my children unconditionally, it is an attitude, something that is eternal.
You can catch more from @blossomandbe here


Valentines Love

Around this time of year we can get caught up in the commercial aspect of valentines day, what about all the other 364 days what happens to the love then?
I love valentines it simply gives the men out there a nudge in the right direction. Or if you’re like my dad and father in law they still forget its valentines and I have to remind them. However, I don’t believe this phases my mother or mother in law. Except that kind of love even not shown is there like a glow. Cooking their supper every night when they come in the door. Keeping them company in an evening in front of the tv and just being there for each other.pexels-photo-196664.jpeg
Love can be seen in many different ways. Love is when the others happiness is more important than your own. I must admit Sean doesn’t whisk me off for a surprise weekend away or send bunches of flowers to my work for all to see, except he appreciates me in many different ways throughout the year, not just Feb 14th. If he’s down stairs in the morning before me he always makes me a cup of tea. That’s what deep down love is for me. He doesn’t need to show me with outward approach. When he does buy me flowers its usually the most unexpected times and a great surprise. He knows me when I’ve used my reserve tank with the kids and he steps in.

One Valentine’s Day he did actually run me a romantic bath. I had just finished a shift at work and was very pregnant and sore with my pelvis at the time. I thought to myself wow! He’s really pushing the boat out here. However the kids heard the bath running and stampeded up the stairs. I ended up sharing the bath with Ivy- It had slipped my mind for a second she was off nursery that day due to a tummy upset. Seconds later she passed wind… well u can imagine what happened next…I’ve never exited a bath so quick in all my life. Poor Ivy she didn’t realise what was going on! So that was the romance down the drain that night.coffee-cup-stack-break.jpg

I wish you all the love this Valentine’s Day. If its with that huge bunch of roses or the silent love expressed by that cup of tea he made you. Share the love. Today and everyday. True love endures.

Have a great valentines day