A Mothers love

Becoming a mother myself…

Mother’s day is the one day we set aside to appreciate our mums, granny’s, sisters, aunties, mother in law, and others who play a motherly role in our life. A mother’s love begins in the womb, when you first see the red line on the pregnancy test, the fluttering in your tummy of nervousness and excitement. The feeling of skin to skin and the connection is unreal when you first hold that baby on your chest. It’s so precious, you made this tiny human and its all yours.
I remember looking into the Moses basket when Ivy was just a few days old and being overcome by emotion as I couldn’t believe I could love this tiny baby so much and she was all mine. The same happened with Gracie and Malachy too. I just wanted to hold them forever they were so precious and I remember being so in love with them my heart could burst. To become a mother is truly a miracle I believe. For a man and a woman to conceive a child and grow this baby inside of you for 9 months is truly beautiful. It’s so precious and mind baffling at how nature works in our body’s.

Nature’s wrong turn

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There is great excitement when the pregnancy test is positive and we begin to plan out the future for the baby…However silently nature can take a wrong turn and the baby can be taken from you without warning or reason. That is not how you planned the future, what did we do wrong we often question ourselves. Miscarriage is more common than we know with 1 in 4 pregnancy’s ending up in miscarriage. Its a silent heart ache that often women don’t share with the world as its usually within the first trimester. Why God we question ourselves?

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Isaiah 41:10
“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will uphold you with my righteous hand”
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Our journey is planned out…

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Boy meets girl, Boy marries girl, couple have a baby…this is the ideal life for some isn’t it? For lots of couples this isn’t the reality. I am often humbled thinking about couples who have fertility problems or for whatever reason can’t conceive. It would appear to be so isolating and difficult to understand if you haven’t been through it yourself. The constant thought of mourning that child you can’t have. It must be mentally exhausting going through that and being around children on a day to day basis. We don’t know the plan God has for our life, and sometimes God puts us through trials so we can be a testimony to others. But we’re seeing so much medical intervention these days it almost becomes that anything is possible. I believe God is in control of every situation. It’s sometimes not how we had planned it and we become angry and bitter, but in time it will be revealed it’s not our plan its Gods plan.
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Romans 8:28
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
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The loss of a mother

Mother’s day for some is an agonising day. It might be the first mother’s day without their mum or the 10th anniversary , but every year it hurts just the same. This special day is a frank reminder that you mother is no longer here to celebrate it with you. You wish you had one last phone call or one last hug. That hole in your heart can never be filled. For some it becomes a day of celebrating their lives. Your mum was your number one fan, right there in the front row of your life. A mother can never be replaced but others around us become a mother supplement. We must bring joy to them also on this day.

Myself as a mother

I love mother’s day, I love receiving the home made cards from the girls that they made at playschool. However I almost feel a sense of guilt as I read them. I think back to the days when I was tired and I shouted at them as they were misbehaving in the bath or wouldn’t put their clothes on as we were in a hurry. I just hope they don’t remember those times.
The days can be long but the years are short. Gracie is approaching school age after the summer I look back and think where did those years go? I have such a bad memory all the kids milestones of walking and talking verge into one. Since becoming a mum and I go through trials with the kids I often think back to my own mum and how she would have done things.

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My Mum

My mum wasn’t the cool mum at the school gates with the funky clothes or the stylish hair. (Sorry Mum) She was the mum I could tell anything to, a comforting loving godly mother. She was and is a strong centre link in our family and she has done a great job raising my brothers and I. When I heard her say those words ‘I know best as I’ve been here before you’  I used to cringe, when she wouldn’t let me go out with that crowd or go to certain places. Back then I didn’t know why she did say no to all those things, now I see through mothers eyes, and all that she did was love. She knew what was best for me, even though I couldn’t see it. I often feel bad for my parents for the teenager that I was back then. It’s not an easy job being a mum as I often am the one saying no, and the kids look at me angrily or with disappointment. I would do anything for my children. I dread my two girls hitting their teenage years! Help!! It isn’t until I became a mum that I realised how difficult it’s going to be for Sean and I.
Happy Mothers day to all my fellow mums and followers. Let’s celebrate and appreciate the women in our life’s. This Day and every day…

Thanks Mum, I love you!
Love April
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Love Endures

What the bible says about love…

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 1 Corinthians ch13 verse 4-8.img_8166

What love means to me?
I love this verse its a perfect example of what love means to me. Love is all those things and more. It stems from a close friendship that grows to affection, feelings and state of mind between yourself and another. Love is forgiving, Love is about tolerance, Love is about compromise and putting others before yourself.
Before we got married 7 years ago my dads only advice was to never let the sun go down on your wrath. A well known bible verse. Yet so true, as relationships can be damaged if arguments and strain goes on and on. The best piece of advice I could ask for.pexels-photo-256737.jpeg

What is the definition of love?
The definition of love is different for everyone. No one can define it and no one has the right answer. To fall in love when a strong connection in your relationship kindles, the feeling of giddiness and excitement. That feeling when you cant wait to see each other again. Holding hands, and the feeling that you cant be apart. There’s a big spark between you and the relationship is very rosy and fresh and new. As relationships mature the spark becomes a glowing ember in your heart. Maybe your not feeling the same excitement when you see each other but you just know the love is still there. You don’t need to question it. You don’t need to express it with PDA public display of affection anymore or bunches of flowers. Love simply becomes a cup of tea made for you in the morning or plugging your phone into charge when you simply forget. Or prepping the kids before you head out the door to work to make sure they behave while your away. Love has your back, love forgets old wounds, Love doesn’t look at your bank balance or your race. Love doesn’t care about your cellulite or your stretch marks. Love is blind and love is from the heart. Love endures.


What love means to others…

Claire, also known as @Cailynsmummy

Love to me is being present, caring and wanting to be there for the people you care about. Love is such a strong word and one I’ve not said to many but love with Chris gives me excitement, happiness and security. Love to us is passion and support for each other, always. See more from Claires here

Hetti, also known as @blossomandbe mother of 2 take on her love…

Defining love is complicated as we each experience love in our own way. For me love doesn’t exist as one thing. The love I have for my husband is a passionate commitment that is always developing and being nurtured.
I think a key factor in this growing love is our compatibility, we share the same values, likes and dislikes and interests, and these common grounds were what sparked our love, and what allow this love to grow. I don’t find it difficult to stay in love with him, it’s something I never question. He makes me laugh, is there for me when I cry and I will care and protect him forever through thick and thin.
The love for my children is a different type of love, it is a profound emotion that is like nothing else in this world. When I first saw them i got an instant overwhelming urge to love them and I find it almost indescribable. From that moment these tiny babies were my main priority and I immediately had a fierce desire to protect them. When my children were born I also realised how much my mother loves me. I love my children unconditionally, it is an attitude, something that is eternal.
You can catch more from @blossomandbe here


Valentines Love

Around this time of year we can get caught up in the commercial aspect of valentines day, what about all the other 364 days what happens to the love then?
I love valentines it simply gives the men out there a nudge in the right direction. Or if you’re like my dad and father in law they still forget its valentines and I have to remind them. However, I don’t believe this phases my mother or mother in law. Except that kind of love even not shown is there like a glow. Cooking their supper every night when they come in the door. Keeping them company in an evening in front of the tv and just being there for each other.pexels-photo-196664.jpeg
Love can be seen in many different ways. Love is when the others happiness is more important than your own. I must admit Sean doesn’t whisk me off for a surprise weekend away or send bunches of flowers to my work for all to see, except he appreciates me in many different ways throughout the year, not just Feb 14th. If he’s down stairs in the morning before me he always makes me a cup of tea. That’s what deep down love is for me. He doesn’t need to show me with outward approach. When he does buy me flowers its usually the most unexpected times and a great surprise. He knows me when I’ve used my reserve tank with the kids and he steps in.

One Valentine’s Day he did actually run me a romantic bath. I had just finished a shift at work and was very pregnant and sore with my pelvis at the time. I thought to myself wow! He’s really pushing the boat out here. However the kids heard the bath running and stampeded up the stairs. I ended up sharing the bath with Ivy- It had slipped my mind for a second she was off nursery that day due to a tummy upset. Seconds later she passed wind… well u can imagine what happened next…I’ve never exited a bath so quick in all my life. Poor Ivy she didn’t realise what was going on! So that was the romance down the drain that night.coffee-cup-stack-break.jpg

I wish you all the love this Valentine’s Day. If its with that huge bunch of roses or the silent love expressed by that cup of tea he made you. Share the love. Today and everyday. True love endures.

Have a great valentines day

 

Attitude of Gratitude

I love how in times of trouble women tend to pull together, women talk and share things more openly than men and we grow great bonds of unity.

When someone openly shares their experiences, it’s a gateway for other to do alike. Sometimes a word of encouragement goes a long way, it can set you up for the day or week ahead. I’m part of a large group of women within our church called Chosen, we have a what’s app group and every week day someone shares a short devotional message.

I sometimes dread my turn, who am I to preach to these more experienced, godly women? But I have to put that behind me, if God has laid it on my heart- others often benefit from it.

So here is my one from this week.

Enjoy …

❤Remember the day you prayed for the things you have now ❤

Morning ladies.

An average morning in our house its pretty hectic! As you can imagine trying to get 3 kids organised and out the door for school/nursery starting at 9am can be quite a challenge. One particular morning was no exception and I couldn’t wait for school to start. Ivy was having a melt down about her jacket. After the 3rd time of telling Gracie to put on her shoes she was still staring at the tv, and Malachy was hanging about my ankles as usual while I tried to tidy up the aftermath of breakfast. My head was about to burst.

Mid argument with Ivy I picked up my phone to read a text. As I read it the world went silent around me and my heart filled with compassion as I read of someone else’s heart breaking situation. I couldn’t believe what I had just read. My eyes filled and I just lifted that person before Jesus in prayer. It brought everything in my life in to perspective that day.

Do I really appreciate all God has given me, including my kids the way I should? Do I show enough gratitude towards God for blessing me with them? Do I forget to give thanks for things after God answered my prayers? 1 Thessalonians 5: 16-18 ‘Be joyful always; pray continually; Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.’

We sometimes get caught up with such a busy daily life that we can forget to give thanks to God for all He has done, and what He has blessed us with . Daily life and routines consume us and we can become self centred and our focus on God begins to wander.

Let’s pray we work towards an attitude of gratitude. Give thanks to the Lord everyday. Give thanks for answered prayer. Appreciate the blessing of children (even when we get a bit stressed out by them!) and He will give us a heart of gratitude helping us to be joyful always and pray continually.

Have a lovely weekend