The Potty Train…

 The dreaded word right?

After reading many baby books I always wanted to be on the ball with potty training, my granny always said ”back in the day your mum was potty trained at a year old!!” How could this be? Could she even walk? Statistics say 97% of children were potty trained by age 18months in 1957! Wow!!! I wonder how much of that statistic is true?

IVY

We took the plunge when Ivy was about 17months old. I followed Gina Fords book Potty training in 1 week. Sounds ideal right!? Thinking if we can crack this we can crack anything. The book is a short step by step daily guide with tips and signs to look out for to keep you on the right track. Previously I have used Gina Fords books for issues such as routine and weaning, and felt they really worked.
So we opened the book (I say we, but not entirely sure how much Sean was involved) page by page day by day she stuck to the book and she was ‘potty trained’ within 10 days…so a little longer than it says on the cover but I was impressed.  Of course we had the odd accident, and she wasn’t dry at night but it was a great success!

You think 1 week isn’t long…however it was the longest week ever! I thought she would never crack it. Its so frustrating at the time your life is consumed indoors, concentrating solely on potty training. As it states in the book they need to recognise to ask for the potty themselves to move onto the next stage and not just be reminded. I remember going to the top of the stairs with Ivy for her bath on day 8 thinking about packing the whole thing in…when she finally said ‘pee pee’ and ran to the potty and did the needful. I couldn’t believe it!  I was jumping about on the landing clapping my hands and dancing!! It had finally clicked and we were on our way!  A short while after we were on holiday with the girls abroad, and to my surprise Ivy was dry from the first night there right through the week. So it was a pretty easy journey with Ivy as she progressed in age she hardly has had an accident. To the point now at 5 years old I have to remind her to go to the toilet. As she would quite happily go the whole day and not go!

GRACIE

When Gracie became about 18months I decided to pull out the good old Potty training in 1 week book again. My girls even though they look similar they couldn’t be more opposite in personality. Unfortunately it didn’t click after a few days in or few weeks. We decided to abandon all efforts and give her a little time as she wasn’t ready. After several attempts at trying however she still wasn’t able to hold her bladder long enough. When we did get Gracie dry around age 2 it was such a relief. However she wasn’t dry at night and wasn’t accident free. There was lots of days she wet herself on many occasions and I felt we were right back to where we started. Some days she would deliberately have an accident to gain attention. I just imagined the whole process would be easy like it was with Ivy but it wasn’t. It wasn’t until she was about 3 she would go long periods without accidents. I began to worry and google for tips as now she was 3 and a half and was still wet through the night. I had tried several things however none seemed to work.
I called the health visitor for advice as she was turning 4 soon and I was beginning to get really worried as not one night had passed where she had been dry. I couldn’t help compare the girls how could they be so different? The health visitor came to see Gracie for her 4 year review and was very much pleased with her progress. So I thought It was a good opportunity to bring this topic up. I couldn’t believe when she began to discuss other situations and examples of other children’s issues at the same age as Gracie. it gave me a sense of not being the only one like this. She asked questions like if anyone in my family had been older in age before being potty trained? As it sometimes can run in the family. She advised me that unless the particular hormone in her brain is mature and released she will never be dry as she wont be ready. No mater what I try it wont make any difference until this hormone is produced she wont be dry at night.
Gracie turned 4 in February and we had the choice whether she went to school next year or waited until she was 5 1/2. We decided to put her forward for school as she is so go ahead we didn’t want to hold her back in another year of playschool if she is ready for school. Naturally I have been trying to prep her for going to school by dressing herself, toileting and zipping up her jacket independently. So with the bed wetting I was nervous of the fact that she continued to do this.
On her 4th birthday evening her granny was preparing for bed, I overheard her say she didn’t want a pull up on that night. I thought oh dear, but I let her go to bed without one since the sheets need changed anyway in the morning. Much to my joy in the morning she was dry!! She had never done this before it was a great achievement. I thought it must have been a fluke…but no she has been pretty ‘dry’ since.
I used to always lift her before I went to bed and sometimes she will shout in the middle of the night to go to the toilet. She has had the odd dribble since then so I tend to put a training mat under her in bed. However sometimes when we are having a bad week, when she isn’t getting enough attention/or her own way, like last week…for example I was working extra shifts she wet the bed for a whole week!! However usually the majority of the time she is dry.

So that was my experience with girls very different indeed. What about boys??

The average age now for potty training is 3 1/2 with teachers in schools seeing an increase in children coming to school not potty trained. 10% of 7 year old are still wetting the bed. These are facts I was glad to hear when I was struggling with Gracie’s bed wetting. Its nothing to be ashamed of and not spoken about enough. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help and advice with toilet training, and don’t feel like you’ve failed if they don’t succeed. If they haven’t realised the matured hormone they will never be ready, no mater what techniques you try at home.

”Potty training boys is so much harder than girls, they need to be at least 2 and a half!”

MALACHY

So Malachy was 21 months and he’s quite mature for his age I would say- he copy’s the girls a lot and had started showing signs like talking about going to the toilet and recognising when he’s wet! So I took a deep breath and pulled out the good old Gina Ford book for the 3rd time. To be honest I wasn’t planning on attempting it until nearer summer but I thought I would do a little test…much to my delight he knew exactly what he was doing. Sean was looking at me saying I thought we wasn’t doing this just now? But once I started and he got on so well I couldn’t stop! Didn’t want to send him confusing signals by abandoning ship.
Out of  10 days I would say we had 5 accidents/wet pants with me. Of course when I was working and grandparents had him, unfortunately not so switched on to he whole potty training thing and didn’t toilet him so often there was more accidents. He was absolutely no problem and I couldn’t quite believe how easy he was to train- even easier than Ivy.
He’s now dry for his afternoon nap, and sometimes dry at night so we’re on the right track! I must admit I was a little emotional when I began to train Malachy as he was my last and youngest in nappy’s.

What worked for me?

GINA FORD POTTY TRAINING IN 1 WEEK.
They need to be ready and show the signs.
Rewards for peeing in potty (penny sweet)
Don’t go back to nappy’s after you start- don’t confuse them!
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Team work

It doesn’t mater what age they are toilet trained as every child is ready at their own pace. It can be something you don’t want to discuss with other mums as you might be ashamed or embarrassed as they begin to grow older and they have not achieved it. Speak out and seek advice. By sharing my three different experiences shows how good or how bad it can go.

The Mummy Club

What is Club Mummy I hear you say…I stumbled across her page on Instagram and was intrigued and went on to read her website..

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I love this saying she quotes ‘It takes a village to raise a child’ I for one am an example of this as I have my mum, and both granny’s  and aunties living around me. Who all have input in my children’s life and help me raise them on a day to day basis. However not everyone is blessed to stay so close to family or friends even. The world can be a lonely place and with no one to talk to it can become even lonelier. No one ever talks about their failings or down times, but when they do we realise were all the same, were not robots, we all struggle! Its good to laugh at our failures rather than dwell in them.
Christie a mum of two girls is founder of the mummy club after having her girls struggled with post natal depression and anxiety. After having kids were expected to know what to do right? We don’t we just struggle on and wing at parenting. Post natal depression is common for new mums or becoming a mum for the second or third time. I personally struggled with postnatal depression after Gracie and it is a lonely place, you may be surrounded by lots of friends and family however inside your head its a very lonely. The voice inside telling you your not a good mum, and constant comparing yourself to others. Its not until you speak out to others your discover your not alone feeling like this.


The Mummy Club was born… as Christie wanted to put a smile on other mums faces. By filling this box of goodies to make you smile after you’ve had a bad day. The boxes can be on subscription for £18 or a one off gift for yourself of fellow mum.  This box diffidently put a smile on my face when I opened it.
The mummy club website has a bloggers showcase which is packed full of different bloggers take on life, like mum problems to mental health issues. Great place to visit when you are feeling low. From every box £1 is donated to PANDAS foundation. Which is a great organisation which helps people struggling with pre and post natal depression.

When this pink box arrived on my doorstep I was so excited to open it, when I did the smell bounced out at me. What was this amazing smell that reminded me of being on a spa day…It was this little candle inside a tin by Help me organics a smell of Frankincense , Geranium, bourbon and lavender…smells amazing! They included a 10% discount voucher. These candles are organic, vegan and cruelty free. I will defiantly be purchasing one of these! If you want to go on a pretend spa day buy one of these ‘help me have a mindful of calm’ candle.


The next thing that caught my eye was the book. I recognised the faces on the cover strait away. I follow the Scummy Mummies on Instagram. They talk pure honesty on mother hood. They always make me laugh and laughing at our faults and failures makes us realise we’ve all done it at some point…been a scummy mummy. The first few pages of this book made me laugh out loud, defiantly worth a read.

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The bath bomb is amazing again smelling of Lavender…this girl really knows how to treat a woman. This box is like a spa in a box! The only thing missing is a little lady to do the massage! If anyone knows me they know I love a bath, but getting the time or the energy these days is a struggle. Usually by the time I get the kids to bed I’m so tired I fall into my own bed and don’t have time to even run the bath. So when I saw this bath bomb it instantly put a smile on my face.Sabao bath bomb is very luxurious and contain exotic essential oils from around the world- and chosen to promote wellness and well being is from their aromatherapy collection.

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The last item in the box was this beautifully wrapped in brown paper and tied with a bow. Its food I thought, when I pealed back the paper my mouth watering and my daughter Gracie and husband slyly watching me…this  adorable chocolate covered love heart flap jack from Just flap jack. I must admit flap jacks aren’t the first thing I would pick up from the sweet/biscuit isle I would far rather go for a cream egg or a galaxy…however when I tasted this flap jack it was truly delicious! It was huge bigger than a normal biscuit so it was a win win situation! I had to stop myself eating it all so gave half to Gracie and she demolished it. I read the ingredients label, all natural products no ‘EEs’ which is a tick in my box!! I even checked under the tissue paper in the box to see if there was another!


This box really is a treat and well worth the money! This box has reminded to always take time out and have some self care. Us mums need down time when the kids go to bed and this box is the perfect treat!! As we go through our busy life’s its important I feel to self medicate with love and take care of our minds and body’s. Positive thoughts and actions have a positive impact on our behaviours. Lets talk more about or failings and laugh at them, as when you do you realise others will open up to and you are not alone.

Negatives?
One thing that seemed to be missing was the massage lady with the free gown and slippers…

 

Thanks so much Christie for sending me this box to review. Its been a real treat! Keep up the good work!!

Go check out her page for yourself and treat yourself or another woman who deserves it.

The Mummy Club Website

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Attitude of Gratitude

I love how in times of trouble women tend to pull together, women talk and share things more openly than men and we grow great bonds of unity.

When someone openly shares their experiences, it’s a gateway for other to do alike. Sometimes a word of encouragement goes a long way, it can set you up for the day or week ahead. I’m part of a large group of women within our church called Chosen, we have a what’s app group and every week day someone shares a short devotional message.

I sometimes dread my turn, who am I to preach to these more experienced, godly women? But I have to put that behind me, if God has laid it on my heart- others often benefit from it.

So here is my one from this week.

Enjoy …

❤Remember the day you prayed for the things you have now ❤

Morning ladies.

An average morning in our house its pretty hectic! As you can imagine trying to get 3 kids organised and out the door for school/nursery starting at 9am can be quite a challenge. One particular morning was no exception and I couldn’t wait for school to start. Ivy was having a melt down about her jacket. After the 3rd time of telling Gracie to put on her shoes she was still staring at the tv, and Malachy was hanging about my ankles as usual while I tried to tidy up the aftermath of breakfast. My head was about to burst.

Mid argument with Ivy I picked up my phone to read a text. As I read it the world went silent around me and my heart filled with compassion as I read of someone else’s heart breaking situation. I couldn’t believe what I had just read. My eyes filled and I just lifted that person before Jesus in prayer. It brought everything in my life in to perspective that day.

Do I really appreciate all God has given me, including my kids the way I should? Do I show enough gratitude towards God for blessing me with them? Do I forget to give thanks for things after God answered my prayers? 1 Thessalonians 5: 16-18 ‘Be joyful always; pray continually; Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.’

We sometimes get caught up with such a busy daily life that we can forget to give thanks to God for all He has done, and what He has blessed us with . Daily life and routines consume us and we can become self centred and our focus on God begins to wander.

Let’s pray we work towards an attitude of gratitude. Give thanks to the Lord everyday. Give thanks for answered prayer. Appreciate the blessing of children (even when we get a bit stressed out by them!) and He will give us a heart of gratitude helping us to be joyful always and pray continually.

Have a lovely weekend